In Spirit Spiritual Academy | In Spirit 靈性網路學苑

上個禮拜，我收到一封不認識的人寄來的信，大意是說，這個人要從治療師工作轉去跑業務了，請大家多多支持之類的。忽然想到今年，我認識的小圈圈裡有好幾個部落格消失了，不知道作者現在正在幹嘛。
 
會想到這個問題，也是因為那封信裡，作者說她一開始就做這一行，她「只有靈性」，無法給個案什麼實質的幫助。
 

Long long time ago (haha...I am not sure how long ago)
when human was created like everything else in the universe,

Lot of time, when people are talking about spirit and purpose of life,
they always like to make it sounds so complicated,

Lot of people came to me, asking how come life is so difficult,
and how life is so miserable that they simply don't know how to laugh any more.
it's funny how they would not understand any suggestion I gave them, if it's direct to them personally,

This is the posting on my Chinese Blog,
thought I will share with you all...

Today, I had a conversation with a friend about how much an individual could influent others,

I have recently cleaned up my closet and found a lot of sweat shirt for the charities.
Those are the shirt I wore a lot when I first had a baby, but no longer wear them any more...
最近在整理衣服的時候,看到以前常穿的Sweat Shirt(就是美國大學生常在穿的那種寬鬆上衣)

My husband brought in a sheet of newspaper and muttered: Someone I know recently went  to a funeral, and there are at least 400 people participated.
It surprised him that this person is not particularly famous, but there are so many people there for his funeral. and none of them are his relatives.
They are there because of him!

 
these days, my mind seems to have those "why"...
最近,我的腦子裏一直不斷地出現這樣的問題...

- By Dr. Marion Goertz (canadianliving.com)  
When children are over- or under-protected, they miss out on being curious and playful, on making mistakes, on learning. They may grow up to lack confidence in their ability to make good life decisions and to keep themselves safe. This perceived lack of competence often causes them great anxiety and leads to spending too much time and energy critiquing their every thought, word and action.
If you struggle with being overly self-conscious, you are likely high on self-awareness and low on self-acceptance. Begin now to acquire a healthy sense of self that will involve taking risks, making mistakes and, if you're doing it right, being silly. You owe it to yourself and to the next generation; an anxious, overly self-conscious parent often produces a child with the same crippling approach to life.
Some indicators that you're self-obsessed:
• You think everything that happens or doesn't is somehow about you.
• You try to control other people's feelings and accuse them of controlling yours.
• You sift everything that happens through your sense of entitlement, worth, needs.
• You feel vulnerable or victimized most of the time.
• You waste time and energy monitoring the way you walk, talk, look, perform and still feel you've messed up.
• You constantly rehash every daily event, berating yourself or revelling in every moment of glory.
• You think people are focusing on you more than they really are and you edit your behaviour accordingly.
• You dress for the approval of others rather than your own quirky sense of style.
• Your every communication starts with “I” and focuses on what you are thinking, feeling, doing, etc.
• You commandeer every conversation with your own -- worse or better -- experience.
• When you look up the word “narcissism” it sounds like you.
Ways to obsess less and enjoy life more:
• Tackle one issue at a time (i.e., shyness, low self-esteem, negative attitude).
• Trust friends who tell you to get over yourself when you become self-focused.
• Be realistic; perfection doesn't exist.
• Give yourself time to learn how to balance your perspectives and enjoy life more.
• Decide that when it comes to rating yourself, good enough is good enough.
• Get a handle on what's made you so uptight and talk it through.
• Deal with your emotional extremes; be curious and not critical.
• Listen to your instincts when you sense unsafe people or situations nearby.
• Relax. Trust yourself. You're in good hands - yours.  
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