I was 15 minutes early picking up my kid from school today.
during the time of waiting, I was chatting with someone who carried a baby.
For some reason, the baby keep smiling back to me.
If I looked away, she would stop. If I looked at her, she would keep laughing...
(For some reason, I found that the baby under six months old seems to like me, but baby over 9 months usually find me quite scary.)
When I looked at her smiles,
It remind me that...
when my kis was young, she could easily make friend with other kids in the park and played for hours.
Usually, when I got close to them, I was amazed to realize the friend she had been playing with speaks no English at all. (nor Chinese)
Two of her best friends when they first encountered each others,
one can only speak swedish, and the other can only speak Japanese.
But they have NEVER seems to have problem communicating with each others disregards that they speaks TOTALLY different language.
Then, I brought back my attention to the baby in front of me,
She is quite a cute baby... (fair skin, big blue eyes, and golden blonde hair)
In her point of view, I am no different from others,
There's no skin colors difference,
No religion difference,
No nationalities difference,
No Language difference,
No cultures difference,
No good or bad, right or wrong difference,
No any difference that is created by any background...
All I am to her is just a simple soul.
All the sudden, I start to realize that...
How soul communicate with each other, I see it in babies!
This make me wonder...
What happened during the process of growing?
How did we educate our kids,
So they are trying so hard to prove that they are different from others? Or they are just the same as others?
They try so hard to fight for their culture, their religion,
They learn to point their finger on others and use up all the language they ever learned just to show they are the "right one".
I just cannot help thinking...
How should I educate my own kids,
So they learn to communicate with their heart, to record with words, to use their body as tool to fulfil their purpose of life, and use their soul to experience the universe?
It's the very first time,
I notice the wisdom which I have never paid attention to, come from a baby who is less than 6 months old.
Maybe, This is some task that I will need to search for answer, too.
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今天去接小朋友下課的時候, 提早了十幾分鐘到.
在門外與另一個媽媽在說話的時候,
她手中抱的小嬰兒一直對我笑,
每次我眼睛在看別的地方的時候,她就會停下來.
每次我的眼睛回到她身上的時候, 她就會開始笑,
(我發現,全世界的小孩在六個月以前都還挺喜歡我的...不知怎麼搞的,進入九個月之後,他們就開始覺得我看起來-很可怕!)
只是,這麼看著她在笑的時候,
我突然想起我家小孩在小的時候,
可以在短短的時間內,就跟別的小朋友玩成一團.
等我靠近他們的時候,會發現那個打成一團的小朋友竟然一句英文也不會說.
他最好的兩個朋友, 剛認識的時候,
第一個只會說丹麥話, 另一個只會說日本話.
重點是,他們一玩還可以玩好幾個小時, 也完完全全沒有溝通上的問題.
然後,突然再回頭看著眼前一直對我笑的這個小嬰兒.
白皮膚,藍眼睛,金頭髮...(標準的外國小孩)
在她的眼裏,我跟其他的人都沒有什麼不一樣.
我與她之間...
沒有膚色的差別,
沒有國藉的差別,
沒有宗教的差別,
沒有語言的差別,
沒有文化的差別,
沒有好與壞,對與錯的差別,
沒有任何文化洗禮下的任何差異,
就很單單的只是兩個靈魂而己.
突然在那一瞬間,我發現所有靈魂溝通的方式...
原來在嬰兒的身上看得到.
這不禁讓我懷疑,
那麼...在成長的過程中到底發生了什麼事?
我們是如何教育我們的下一代,
反讓他們開始急於居分自己與他人的不同,
據理力爭地為自己的文化爭辯,
為自己的宗教辯護,
努力地將手指指著他人,頭頭是道地為了證明自己是"對的"!
愈是這麼想,我就愈不得不去思考,
到底要怎麼教育自己的小孩,
才有辦法讓她用心去溝通, 用語言去記錄, 用身體去實踐課題,用靈魂去體驗這個世界呢?
從一個六個月不到的小嬰兒身上,
我看到我從來不會去思考的智慧.
這,或許也是我必須去尋找答案的課題之一吧?
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